Hi Sis Noe
I want to get pregnant but his sperms keep coming out of my vagina after sex. Please help, I am worried.
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Sperm leakage from the vagina is normal and to be expected when there is enough of the ejaculate. Sperm leakage means there is enough of the ejaculate. Most women notice some discharge immediately after sex and some think it’s the cause of infertility. The fluid coming out of the vagina after his orgasm is a portion of the ejaculate. But less than five percent of the ejaculate is actually sperm — over 95 percent is made up of other fluids.
Leakage of the ejaculate from the vagina is highly unlikely to prevent you from getting pregnant. In fact, it’s totally normal for some of the ejaculate to come out of your vagina after intercourse. If he ejaculates deeply inside you, then you can be sure that no matter how much of the ejaculate leaks out afterward, enough sperm will reach the cervical mucus. This leakage of the ejaculate is usually not a cause of infertility. It is probably a good sign that some ejaculate leaks out because it may mean that he is depositing his semen normally in your vagina and that there is enough of it.
Hi Sis Noe
I am a 17-year-old girl and I want to find out whether I can get any diseases from kissing?
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There is no need for you to be worried. As long as you are BOTH HEALTHY, kissing including French kissing is highly unlikely to transmit any disease, including HIV, the virus that causes Aids, and other STDs. Some diseases that you can get are the common cold and flu. The herpes virus that causes cold sores on the lips or inside of the mouth can be spread through kissing, too. Hepatitis B and some forms of bacterial meningitis could also be transmitted through kissing alone, but this is much less common than getting a cold or flu from swapping saliva or hand-to-hand contact with an infected person.
Hi Sis Noe
I am 18 and have never had sex before and I am growing big pimples on my vagina and they are very painful. Is it normal?
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There are some people that will or develop a pimple/s close to their vagina and this is actually fairly common therefore do not become alarmed. If you are at all concerned about bumps around the genital area it is important to seek medical advice. When you talk to your doctor they will be able to give you medicated cream that will help to solve the problem.
These spots can sometimes be the result of a yeast infection therefore it is best to get them checked so that you are aware of what you are actually dealing with. It is very important to get checked by the doctor as the symptoms can become quite serious if not treated. These pimples may grow if untreated and then they will burst and become very sore.
Hi Sis Noe
I am 21 and my boyfriend is 27. He wants to marry me but I am not ready for marriage. I love him and he does too but I just feel like this isn’t the right time for marriage. What should I do?
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In all seriousness, if you feel like you are not ready for marriage yet and your boyfriend’s proposal freaked you out, then you really need to have a discussion with him about your ideal time-frame. And make sure you two are on the same page or, at the very least, aware of what road you are walking. Marriage is a scary thing, for sure. Getting married is a big deal, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed by the idea. In fact, I would have been more concerned about you if you told me you are going into it without a thought.
If you know in your heart that you are with the right person and you know you want to marry him one day then I don’t see the reason to worry too much about feeling scared or freaked out about making it real. Talking all this over with your boyfriend will help. Tell him that you are not ready; I don’t know how you will do that.
But, as long as you tell your boyfriend that your feelings are only because you take your love for him and your commitment to marriage so seriously, and not because you doubt your choice. But … on the flip side, if your feelings are because you doubt your choice, then, obviously, you need to be truthful about that first to yourself and then to him before you agree to marriage. Listen to your heart; it probably won’t lead you astray.
Hi Sis Noe
I am a guy aged 23 in a serious relationship and very happy but the thing now is that we rushed into a relationship without asking each other about our ages, now I just found out that she is 28 and we were planning on getting married. Should I go ahead? I love her.
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It sounds as though you have some doubts about your girlfriend and you don’t feel very safe. I can’t say I blame you. In a relationship it is very important to feel safe, secure and understood by the other person. It is good that you are aware that you feel uncomfortable that she is five years older than you. Even though you are uncomfortable about the age gap, it sounds like it’s difficult for you to express your age without causing discomfort to her.
While five years may not seem like a lot to her, it can make a big difference to the younger person. You feel pressured into things that you may not be comfortable with, like marriage for example. If you are not comfortable with anything you absolutely have the right to say NO. If you are getting pressured, this tells me that this woman is not looking after your best interests. She is 28; time is ticking away for her. She needs to settle down quickly and you are eager.
She is taking advantage of you. I am not surprised that you are talking about marriage. Am I wrong to say she is the one who came up with the idea of marriage? You are still young to be thinking about marriage especially to a woman who is older than you.