Hi Sis Noe
I don’t orgasm when my husband is inside me. What is wrong with me?
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I can tell you that many couples encounter exactly the same problem. The world of sex is a tricky one to navigate — let alone having these little bumps. It can be downright traumatising for some. So my first piece of advice to you is a very simple one and I hope it will help alleviate your anxiety: This is common than you think and there are totally ways to overcome it or work towards eventually being able to achieve the elusive O (orgasm). Don’t bother wasting your time trying to figure out who is responsible for this. This is to say one thing: forget about who can’t or won’t. Just focus on what you can do to change it. When it comes to sex, there is a physical dimension at play: physical stimulation and physiological responses to excitement. But there is also a mental and emotional sphere that is at play. When all these components come together, it’s magic. You reach that climax. But just because you can’t or don’t come doesn’t mean something is out of alignment. Bodies are strange and individual so just go with the flow. Try to change it up and see what feels good. Above all, don’t freak out. That is the fastest way to lose an erection — and an orgasm. There are a few things you should do to try to overcome your problem, one of them is to ask him to slow down, the longer the sex the more chances of you orgasming since most women take time to warm up. Ask him to take time on oral sex before he penetrates you — ask him to play with your clitoris, let him finger you and he should only penetrate you when you are dripping wet. If he dominates during sex, ask him to let you be in charge for a change, the change might surprise.
Hi Sis Noe
How can I make my penis bigger? I feel that it’s small.
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I am sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but this is at best difficult and in almost all cases unneeded. Certain positions can make you feel bigger to your partner. For example, if you have her lie face-down on the bed and enter her from behind it will create a snug fit, which makes you feel larger to her. You can also make your penis look bigger by shaving down there. Trust me, she will appreciate it for more reasons than one. Plus, hitting the gym and eating clean will give you a fit, flat core — another way to diminish distraction around your prized possession. Plenty of women cannot climax through penetrative sex alone. That means you should focus less on how big your package is, and more on your overall performance. Women want a lover who is interested in exploring her body — someone who wants to learn exactly how to suck, kiss, lick, tug, scratch, and rub her the way she likes. So quit worrying about what is hanging between your thighs, and focus on having fun.
Hi Sis Noe
Can I get pregnant if I have sex while I am on my periods?
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If you have periods, you may be under the belief that you can’t get pregnant if you have sex during your period. But this is not the case. You can still get pregnant if you have sex on your period. Make sure to use contraception all month long. How is it possible — because sperm can live inside a vagina for up to five days. So, although chances of pregnancy are lower, it’s definitely still possible.
Hi Sis Noe
Is it cheating if I talk to other women on WhatsApp without my wife knowing?
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It depends on what topics you talk about, the purpose of the communication and if your partner knows of these communications — if it’s sexual, yes. Yes, it’s emotional cheating, and if you are talking to others on WhatsApp, your partner is just an option. If you feel the need to talk to other women you should probably reassess your marriage. It is considered cheating if you start to form an emotional connection, but sometimes it’s nice to flirt and feel wanted in a way that you don’t always get from a long-term partner. But instead of doing that I urge you to work on your marriage. Cut off these women and turn your attention to your wife.