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Artistes, Nhimbe Trust lobby for Bulawayo Day

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Sunday Leisure Reporter

This year Bulawayo celebrates its 125th anniversary while the world commemorates May Day under the theme “Uniting Workers for Social and Economic Advancement”. 

The Bulawayo Cultural Affairs Office and Nhimbe Trust are lobbying the Bulawayo City Council  to declare 1 June the day of Bulawayo.

The beginning of June is the day Bulawayo attained town status. This year the city celebrates 125 years.

Nhimbe Trust executive director Josh Nyapimbi described the proposed Bulawayo Day as “a day to promote everything ‘Bulawayoan’, of celebrating the diversity of local cultural expressions and heritage.” 

He said Nhimbe Trust was calling on cultural people of Bulawayo to step forward and partner in the process of lobbying for the Day.

“This will keep Bulawayo’s cultural palette alive and vibrant in the region with the proposed annual celebration on the first day of June, starting from 2020. It goes without saying that all artistes working in Bulawayo would welcome such an annual celebration that is an acknowledgement of their contribution to both socio-economic development and the diversity of cultural expressions. Against a backdrop of economic turbulence, Nhimbe Trust is working to consult and engage with artistes and other stakeholders, both local and abroad, for valuable engagement and direction on collaborative efforts that can be pursued to support sustainable livelihoods of artistes and cultural professionals under decent work conditions that favour equity, social security and sector resilience,” added Nyapimbi.

Writer Virginia Phiri said: “I am happy to give a hand in whichever way I can to achieve our goal. Thanking you for taking on this great task. Umkhulu lo Msebenzi. Sisonke.”

Multi-faceted artist Lucky Moyo said: “I fully support this vision and I think it’s long overdue. My proposal would be that you [engage] as many of our leaders and champions in the arts and culture sector in its broadest term.” 

Poet and writer Albert Nyathi said “Ukhohlwe abe Sotho, lamma Xhosa lama Tshangani. (You have forgotten people of Sotho, Xhosa and Shangani origin). Good idea, absolutely. 1 June, singazigqokela amabhetshu (we can wear our traditional regalia!). I like the idea.” 

Jazz and gospel artiste Dudu Manhenga, said, in a nutshell, “Very good idea!” 


Eye on Fashion : Trends that give you attention

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Rutendo Chidawanyika 

WOMEN love attention! That’s just the truth. Be it attention from the opposite sex or from other sisters; any attention is good. There is a silver lining between being confident and seeking attention. 

We often claim to dress for ourselves but in all honesty we do dress for the opposite sex most times to compete against each other. While some fashion trends exude confidence, some just scream ‘‘LOOK AT ME’’. When the dress code is black, some show up in a gold dress. If the trend happens to be boots, some want the highest or the brightest colour boot in order to stand out.

So ladies, these are some trends that make us look super thirsty for attention:

Instagram eyebrows — these are still in, in case you were wondering. We have got the stencils to improve our drawing craft. Bad eyebrows are a no-no, however, some women obsess with having the perfect brow. A good brow does make one look more attractive. Your eyebrows don’t have to be too perfect on a daily basis. Spending five minutes every morning on brows because every day is slay day. On some days just do them lightly.

Too much make up — some may argue that there is no such thing as ‘‘too much’’ make up. I’m here to tell you that, yes, there is! Day makeup and night makeup aren’t the same. Some makeup will be so thick, like you just stepped out of the Black Opal factory. Unless you work in the cosmetics department or are attending a function there is no reason to step in Pick and Pay looking like a Barbie doll. During the day subtle makeup is enough. 

Exaggerated nails — what’s life without a bit of drama? Having the sparkliest nails or the sharpest or brightest or even the craziest; has become a competition among women. It seems the crazier the better. Sometimes a French manicure is clean and neat.

Trying to look like Rihanna — Rihanna can make anything look good. Not you. Don’t raid your mum’s 70s closet, make us think we went back in time when we see you. Celebrities have stylists and you don’t, so stop trying to look like them because they don’t look like that every day. Rihanna is a fashion icon and role model to most, old or young. She does dress fashionably and we can’t help but want to imitate her. However, some take it 10 notches too far. It’s ok to admire her style but let’s leave Bad girl Riri.

Rihanna

 

Not dressing for your body type —   (clears throat). If you have an apple shape body maxi dresses are for you. Skinny jeans with body hugging tops aren’t for every body type. We know women follow fashion trends but don’t go with anything, do make sure it suits. Thing with body types; some trends look better on slim women and some look good on thick women. Thick girls can rock leggings as well as cocktail dresses that are flowy. Try it on and ask how you look.

Crazy hairstyles — the crazy references are bright coloured hairdos. Overly done hair, over the top outrageous colours looking like a rainbow. Simplicity is always a win. When it comes to hair it all depends on the age. The younger you are the easier it is to get away with some of these hairdos. Some are just crazy like the pink hair or trying the Amber Rose look. Oh well, if you are a fashionista you probably can get away with anything.

Skin bleaching — this beauty/fashion trend seems here to stay. At the end of your day it’s your body, your decision. Most dark skinned women feel that being light in complexion makes you much more attractive. Genevive Nnaji, Kelly Rowland, Lupita Nyongo, Danai Gurira; beg to differ. The problem with bleaching is it ruins your skin long term.

Danai Gurira

Shoes we cant walk in — Do not wear heels if you cannot walk in them. Attention is good sometimes, but when you start walking like a baby giraffe learning how to walk, we have a problem. Just get the most comfortable heel. Having bad feet from trying to please people isn’t worth it.

Do not go the extra mile to look a certain way. Just be yourself, look classy and sophisticated. LESS IS MORE and SIMPLICITY IS THE ULTIMATE SOPHISTICATION. — Additional information from online sources. 

Email: rutendochidawanyika3@gmail.com

Chat with Sis Noe…I have had five sexual relationships but have never reached orgasm

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Hi Sis Noe

Is it possible to get pregnant while breastfeeding? — Curious.

Reply

Yes, it is possible to get pregnant within a few months after having a baby — even if you are still lactating. You may have heard about something called lactation amenorrhoea, or the breastfeeding method, which is a birth control method frequently used by new mothers. It works because breastfeeding causes a woman to stop ovulating and in turn, stop menstruating for about six months after giving birth. However, this contraception strategy only prevents pregnancy when under specific circumstances. This means that some new mums might still be at risk of pregnancy,  depending on their particular breastfeeding situation.

Hi Sis Noe

I AM five months pregnant and still having sex with my husband. I want to know when I must stop. I don’t want to hurt my baby. — Curious.

Reply

Most women who are having a normal pregnancy can continue to have sex right up until their water breaks or they go into labour. You won’t hurt the baby by making love. The amniotic sac and the strong muscles of the uterus protect your baby, and the thick mucus plug that seals the cervix helps guard against infection. And while orgasm may cause mild uterine contractions (as can nipple stimulation and the prostaglandins in semen); they are generally temporary and harmless. There are many reasons why sex during pregnancy can be more enjoyable, even if you are doing it less. There is an increase in vaginal lubrication, the engorgement of the genital area helps some people become orgasmic for the first time or multi-orgasmic, the lack of birth control, or if you have been trying for a while, a return to pleasurable sex as opposed to pro-creational.

Hi Sis Noe

Is it possible for a woman to fall pregnant when she sleeps with a guy for the first time? — Curious.

Reply

Yes, a girl can become pregnant the first time she has sex. Anytime a girl has vaginal sex with a guy, she is at risk for becoming pregnant. Even if a guy ejaculates outside of but near a girl’s vagina or pulls out before he comes, a girl can get pregnant. Any time a man and a woman have intercourse, pregnancy is possible (of course, the chance of pregnancy is greatly reduced if you are using an effective method of birth control). All that needs to happen is for a sperm to get to an egg. Even if a young woman has never menstruated, she might have just ovulated (released an egg) for the first time. This would make her fertile and pregnancy possible. It’s also possible to get a sexually transmitted disease (STD) anytime you have sex, including the first time. Actually, whenever people have any kind of sexual contact (oral, anal, or vaginal) they run the risk of getting an STD. That is why condoms were invented, to prevent the transmission of such diseases and pregnancy of course.

Hi Sis Noe

Ever since I discovered that my wife was cheating on me I am struggling to find her sexually attractive. I have no desire to have sex with her. — Help.

Reply

The discovery of your wife’s cheating has destroyed not only your positive sense of coupledom with her, but also your somewhat idealised notion of her. I do not suggest that this will be an easy process, and you are already experiencing the longing and pain that accompanies such drastic and sudden shifts in a person’s conceptualisation of his love. But that pain usually leads to growth and important discoveries. True intimacy involves seeing your partner for who she truly is, so perhaps a less idealistic view of her will improve things between you. Allow yourself to be vulnerable in her presence, and try to express your true feelings, no matter how difficult it is. It is also important to recognise your role in helping to create a fragile union in the first place. Be kind to both of you, do the work and learn. If all that fails, walking away will be the wisest decision lest you hurt each other.

Hi Sis Noe

I am a 35-year-old man and I am afraid of women. I am not a virgin and I have had sex a few times but I am afraid to ask a woman out. In the past I have suffered from depression and low self-esteem, could that be the cause? — Depressed.

Reply

There are many kinds of phobias, and they are all treatable. Fear of women is usually based on anxiety. It develops in adolescence or adulthood, or it can be passed to a child by a phobic parent. If your phobia has its roots in a traumatic incident in your past, you need help to recover from this before you can relate comfortably to women and enjoy sex. Sometimes fear of women indicates sexual orientation issues, and these too can be resolved. I recommend that you seek psychotherapy from an accredited professional for the treatment of all your struggles, including your depression. You deserve to be far happier.

Hi Sis Noe

My problem is that I don’t climax during sex. I have had five sexual relationships but I have never had an orgasm. It’s only when I am sexting that I climax or when I watch porn and masturbate. I don’t know, is it me or my boyfriends were not good in bed? — Help.

Reply

Many women are not orgasmic on penetration alone but I think your problem is rather more complex. On a positive note, as you can climax on your own then when you are in the right relationship it should also be possible. You say you have had five sexual relationships. It sounds as if you are separating sex from love. What you need is a loving relationship with a man who you also find sexually attractive. If there was love and genuine trust between you, then you could really relax and enjoy making love. You could try lovemaking positions where, as well as penetration, he is able to caress the clitoris and also where you are relaxed enough to show him how you are able to be orgasmic.

Singer’s nude video out

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Rumbidzai Mhlanga, Sunday Life Reporter  

ONE of Zimbabwe’s urban grooves music pioneers, Enock Guni, warmly known as Nox, has suffered public humility after his “private” video found its way into the world of social media.

In the 30-second leaked video, a fully naked Nox is seen stroking his privates, while on a call with a woman. His lawyers later sent an apology which was uploaded on Facebook.

“Our client admits that he messed up and has no justification for what happened. He apologises to family members, friends and fans and mostly his wife. We however, as the lawyers to our client will make sure  this is dealt with and we will make sure that the justice system takes its course,” said a note posted on Facebook and signed the “Knox Legal Team”. 

Its back to school

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Charles Dube

SWIFTLY the school holidays have gone by and it’s strictly back to school. Many learners have not been on holiday, what with the demand of holiday or extra lessons. These are the in-thing nowadays. The motto is: if you can afford join them. It is suffice to say these holiday lessons have helped many learners achieve good grades in the public examinations. On Tuesday schools will be a hive of activity teeming with learners.

All is set for those who write O and A-level public examinations in June. Most of these we assume are almost ready to sit their examinations. These have been sweating it out throughout the short holiday period. Those following this column will have realised that I tried to help O-level learners on free composition writing. I realised that some learners take certain issues for granted when it comes to composition writing.

Learners were reminded on small things like ignoring simple punctuation and writing fragmented sentences. There is general neglect of using full stops and commas to mention just a few. There is expert advice given to learners to perfect the use of the English Language. In a nutshell, they should pay particular attention to sentence construction, punctuation, tenses, prepositions, paragraphing and spellings. Spellings, tenses, and paragraphing are still to be dealt with and in greater detail on these pages later on.

Learners should read a lot of work written by others. After marking learners’ work the teacher can make use of the work presented by the learners to correct general and individual mistakes made by learners.

Some learners present good work which can be read in class to motivate others. Common mistakes can be noted in some learners’ work and corrected immediately. Composition answers should also be numbered. I have realised that some learners have problems on situational essays. This is another area which I was taking for granted thinking learners have no problem in it. In this area questions come in various forms.  Here is a distinction between a situational and guided composition.

One expert says a situation composition gives an account of an event(s) or experiences happening to you or someone else at a particular time and place. The main task is to write what happened at that particular time and place. Learners are advised to take note that this type of composition, like the descriptive composition is restrictive. They only give an account of events for that particular time and place and nothing else.

When writing a guided composition, you are given information or instructions to incorporate into your writing. Thus, you are given a skeleton and you have to add some flesh. While many learners have no problem following this instruction there are some who totally fail to follow this instruction which at face value appear very straight forward. The fail to answer the given question. On top of that they fail to use the given guidelines. Above all, they fail to incorporate the given information.

Learners writing their examinations still have some days to work and correct themselves on these errors. They have to follow the pattern of guidelines. Learners should not write anything that is outside the given guidelines. Note that other guided compositions have the following instructions: Write a short story that ends with one of the following sentences: (a) I would never have believed that I had such courage or (b) I blamed myself for being dishonest.

Having looked at composition writing from the above angles I believe it is worthwhile to give hints on how to improve your story: vary sentence lengths — short for suspense and long sentences for description. Use powerful verbs, for example roared not said: stumbled not went, include descriptions such as: thunder boomed and lightning flashed in the dark sky. Include alliteration to make descriptions more memorable, for example, the rain roared and the lightning leapt and show how your characters feel: for example, his heart pounded like a drum.

Learners could check their language usage. For example, you can ask yourself: Have I used the past tense all the way through? Have I used dramatic connectives like, suddenly; at that moment to mention just a few. Have I used time connectives to tie the story together? For example, when, while, after? Have I used place connectives to show where things happen like, in the cave, over the hill, in the tree house?

How do you create a character to improve your composition? Choose a name for your character or would a nickname sound interesting? Describe one or two details so the reader can “see” your character. For example, freckled or mottled face, blue jeans or scruffy. Describe the feelings of your character, for example, angry, sad, lonely, excited, jovial, mean, jealous, brave, calm, silly, hungry, tired, elated to mention a few.

I hope these points will help learners ready themselves for the examinations and generally improve their English language performance in other spheres. 

For views link with charlesdube14058@gmail.com or sms to 0772113207.

I was ‘raped’ as a child

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Bruce Ndlovu, Sunday Life Reporter

AS she bade farewell to the groundbreaking character of Wandi from South Africa’s Generations: The Legacy last week, Zimbabwean actress Chi Mhende dropped a bombshell, revealing she was sexually abused as a child. 

Mhende, who grabbed the imagination of viewers of SABC 1’s flagship soapie with her ability to seamlessly transition from male to female roles, said that her character on screen had helped her come to terms with the abuse that she had suffered. 

Mhende joined Generations: the Legacy in 2016 where she took up a role as Wandile Radebe, the son to an elite businessman. Later Wandile transitioned into a female, completing a transformation that marked as one of the South African small screen’s most captivating talents. 

Her character got many intrigued viewers asking if she was male or female in real life. 

In an interview on SABC 3’s Afternoon Express, Mhende revealed that she had decided to speak on this so as to get the message to her family and also the paedophile that had preyed on her. This was the first time she had ever spoke of the abuse. 

“I have been through difficult times with my body. I was sexually abused as a child. This is the first time I’ve ever spoken about it but I felt that coming full circle on something that I had done that gave a lot of power and courage to people who came to me every day to say this has been my life and this has been my body, I thought that I can’t go through this life without releasing this for myself but also for family because the person that was involved needs to know that a) I forgive and b) they need to forgive themselves,” she said. 

She said her character and the public’s reaction had helped her come to terms with her own childhood abuse. 

“I think the performance part helps because I’ve always struggled with the emotion of anger and this is where I get to throw that. I didn’t know what was happening to my body as a child as it was being treated and touched and controlled by someone else. That resulted in a lot of control issues for adult Chi. But as I process and unpack that, that can result in the most beautiful and healing stories of my life and the life of others hopefully,” she said.

Mhende, whose Generations audition is said to have been mind-blowing, revealed that she had prepared extensively for the role. She also gave credit to the soapie’s writers for giving her such a compelling part in the production. 

“I felt like I had this strong non-binary energy supporting me to begin with. I was growing my hair at the time, it was shaved back for the character. My hair was short at the time. I looked at myself in the mirror, I strapped my breasts, worked with my voice and I went in there. 

“I felt like I played four different characters going into it. When I read the brief initially I remember feeling and I think this is something that happens when you finally align with your purpose and your calling. I remember looking at that script thinking that while I’ve never met a single trans(gender) person in my life, I know this person,” she said. 

However, Mhende revealed that the role had taken a physical toll on her in the early days of filming. 

“It got quite painful, with the strapping and I remember the first time I was menstruating during working on the show whereas I had worked out how I would sit and my physicalisation, I remember that first time feeling constricted by the swollen uterus and the breasts,” she said. 

Butho’s first day at work …New National Art Gallery director outlines his vision

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Bruce Ndlovu, Sunday Life Reporter

BUTHOLEZWE Kgosi Nyathi, the new director of the National Art Gallery is worried about the walls at the National Art Gallery. 

He fears that these walls, housing some of Zimbabwe’s most exquisite art, will one day cave in and bring about the ruin of both priceless life and art. If his office is anything to go by, his fears are certainly grounded in reality. 

There are cracks on the upper walls of the youthful office that the 33-year-old has just taken over from the recently retired Voti Thebe. Like snakes descending from the roof, the cracks slide downwards, slithering around the artwork that decorates the office’s walls. 

Outside, even a casual passerby can see that the gallery’s roof, which has begun peeling, has seen better days. Those who remember the collapse of a fast food outlet’s roof three years ago must cast more than a worrying look at the gallery’s roof. 

The art gallery, with its Victorian architecture looks like a building that belongs to a different time, a different age. It looks like it was lifted directly from the bygone Victorian age and fitted right onto the corner of Joshua Mqabuko Nkomo Street and Leopold Takawira Avenue.   

Like many buildings around the city, the Victorian look adds to the gallery’s charm. It is a tourist attraction and the envy of many but on the first day at work, for Nyathi, it is a concern. 

“Major issue that needs urgent attention right now, for which I invite stakeholders to support the gallery, is the building. It needs a serious revamp in terms of renovations. You may appreciate that this is a very historical building. This is one of the historic buildings in Bulawayo,” he reveals to Sunday Life in an interview. 

“Look at the walls, they’re now cracking and if you do a tour you’ll see the extent of the damage. It needs serious and urgent attention so for me that’s one of the most important calls out there. Even if you walk outside and look around you can see that it’s giving in and needs a major overhaul. 

“This is one of the major messages that should go out there. The gallery is a historic building and if you look at the reviews online of people who have visited this place they appreciate its Victorian outlook and that’s what makes it an exceptional piece of architectural work.” 

But on his first day at work Nyathi, a holder of the National University of Science and Technology (Nust) undergraduate degree in Library and Information and a Master of Science Degree in Developmental Studies from the same institution, is concerned about more than the potential danger that the walls pose. 

He has stepped into big shoes and many will be wondering if he can walk in them with comfort. The man he has replaced, Thebe, was a pure artiste and after years of his reign, some might have been expecting the man that succeeds him to be cut from the same cloth. 

Nyathi, at his tender age, is already a seasoned administrator after steering Amagugu International Heritage Centre with much success. While some might see the 2016 Mandela Washington Fellow as a man more comfortable in an office rather than a studio dripping with paint, Nyathi, the son of historian and cultural activist Pathisa Nyathi, points out that he grew up among art and artistes.        

“Many will find it intriguing that my first degree is Library and Information Science which I got from Nust in 2008. Why and how I got to do librarianship is a different story altogether but the fact of the matter is that for the past 11 years I have not worked in a library space. Most of that time has been dedicated towards arts, culture and heritage. 

“Why the arts? I think it’s because of my upbringing. Even if I didn’t want to bring up his (Pathisa) name I think it will eventually come out whether I like it or not. I grew up in that kind of setup you know, visiting musicians, this very gallery, ZIBF, anything and everything artistic. That was my upbringing and I think by default I was oriented in that regard,” he says. 

His skill as an administrator, a skill he horned working alongside Pathisa at Amagugu, is what will help him scale new heights at the gallery, he believes. 

“Running a cultural institution requires some certain soft skills in terms of fundraising, setting up systems, networking . . . he is a historian and cultural practitioner and we would complement each other. While he concentrates on his cultural expertise, I do the admin side of things so I think that was a fantastic combination. For me it remains an example of the kind of balance that you need in a cultural enterprise that even if you’re an artist talented it’s not enough and that is why prominent musicians have managers.” 

Although he has already achieved a lot, Nyathi says the gallery presents an altogether different challenge for him. 

“Coming to the gallery for me was responding to a bigger calling to say I’ve had these kinds of opportunities and I’ve done this kind of schooling what is the next big step? And so it so happened that immediately after I finished my masters degree the incumbent retired and the vacancy was advertised and I said let me just explore this and see.  

“Being in Bulawayo and Matabeleland in general, the gallery is that foremost institution in terms of artistic expression. If you talk of cultural institutions there’s none that is bigger than the gallery. This is a reference point for all artistes, not just the visual artistes. Beyond the studios here we have musicians that launch albums here and some artistes hold their meetings here,” he says. 

While he is happy to see artistes at the gallery prosper, Nyathi said he would be pleased to see them have more of an impact outside the gallery’s walls. 

“There’s art for art’s sake, I’m sure you follow debates on social media, to say we just do drawing to celebrate the aesthetic value of the artwork . . . That definitely will happen because that’s what the gallery exists to do. But the gallery again is not an island, it operates in a certain context and so to what extent can we use art to address broader developmental issue. 

“To what extent art be used in hospitals. So we can work together and strike partnerships that will see our artistes go to certain public health institutions. This can happen even in distressed communities. I saw this during Cyclone Idai where an NGO brought visual artists who brought together children to draw their homes before and after the cyclone as part of post traumatic therapy,” he says.

Profile picture – Our alter ego

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Modern technology and advancements in the social media era has seen the emergence of a new phenomenon known as the ‘profile pic’. Most social media provides a platform for owners of the account to show an image of themselves, or a symbol that represents them.  

This has resulted in the emergence of what I see to be a new genre of artists. People have become extremely creative with the methods in which they perceive themselves and how they would like to be seen. 

Enoch Chimbetete – Soul Master (mixed media) 2016

‘Profile pic – Alter ego’ Exhibition which was officially opened by Rashid Jogee, our guest of honour, on 1 December 2016 at the National Gallery of Zimbabwe in Bulawayo. This article revisits this theme of the ‘Profile Pic’ and reviews the extent society has evolved in relation to technology with an artistic view. I came up with the theme ‘Profile pic – Alter ego’ for an exhibition as a result of observing and being a part of this era of social media communication. Curating this exhibition was an incredible journey with the artists as we explored the diverse layers of meaning and function of a profile picture. The image or symbol used to represent the account user is crucial to both them and the viewer as it confirms the owner, what drives them and in some cases, how they feel. These profile pictures are used on Twitter, Facebook, tumblr, instagram and whats app, which are just a few of the many types of social media available.

I observed how these images have become an extension of the account user. The ‘alter ego’ is the  alternative personality that a person assumes. I observed that the average person has actually  become an artist as they may take “selfies” (self portrait photographs) of themselves and and edit them them to suit their desire. These images are thus used for basic identification of the account holder or to share one’s state of mind with their friends. Friends respond to an updated profile and give comments regarding the photograph. Some comments are pleasant, some are not and some comments are constructive. On social media such as Facebook, there is a section reserved for comments and a section to react by clicking an icon.

As an artist I realised that this was creating a platform for dialogue about the posted or updated profile pic. As artists we strive for our creations to arouse emotions and to stimulate conversation around the artwork. The artist, be it painter, sculptor, musician or poet, has always had the responsibility of initiating social commentary by creating an art form that will make people discuss and reflect on their existence and identity, leaving their creation to the interpretation of the viewer or public. This has become a very common feature on social media where people constantly update their profile pictures with the hope of communicating a thought or an idea. 

Artists create so as to initiate dialogue about certain topics and this was what inspired me to curate the exhibition titled ‘Profile pic – Alter ego’. I identified a few artists from Bulawayo and Harare to participate and interpret further, from their perspective, the theme ‘Profile Pic – Alter ego’, the ‘Alter ego’ being the new profile or the alternative self that will be represented on the profile pic platform. Our vision of ourselves is determined by digital forces and the amount of likes or views. Africa is already struggling with catching up with its own eroded identity, how we view ourselves. Our perception of our selves has been altered and our view of the world is now through the lens of a camera or phone. Identity is questioned, challenged and redefined every day to suit the perceived mood. The work that is created by the artists has the same mission of sparking a thought or  arouse a mood or communicate a state of mind. Our traditional profile pics were once our totems and symbols that defined who we were. Profile pics have a new meaning to us and it keeps redefining itself to us gradually.  It becomes the “new you”  represented after editing and selection. Our identity hangs in the balance of social media versus traditional life. Africans have been undergoing change for years and these changes have brought about layers upon layers of identity crisis. Our tangible heritage is slowly being substituted for a ‘virtual Heritage’ that we may never see, keep, teach, treasure for our future children.

 Participating artists were Auntony Zinyange, Anusa Solanje (Harare) , Sky Solanje (Harare),  Tinashe Vangani, Nomvuyiso Mabi, Wisdom Vangani, Talent Kapadza, Sibanengi Dube, Knox Chimbetete and Aubrey Bango, a whole range of incredible individuals including actresses, photo journalists, a dreadlock hair-stylist, painters and sculptors.

Photograph – courtesy of House of Menka. Remember, ‘Legalise Art’,  promote, permit, admit, validate, legitimise, decriminalise, authorise, permit, make legal, make lawful. -houseofmenka@Facebook.com/houseofmenka@gmail.com


The immortalisation of Jasen Mphepo

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Raisedon Baya

ABOUT four months ago a friend and colleague of mine Jasen Mphepo told me he was planning to build a theatre. I remember looking at him and almost laughing. Building a theatre in this economy? I thought he was just dreaming. 

We all have our dreams, you know and Jasen Mphepo, most of you will remember him from the comedy Waiters that showed on ZTV many years ago, is a big dreamer. So a few weeks after our conversation he sent me pictures of workers starting to dig the theatre foundation and that is when I realised how serious he was. 

He told me he was going to build it in less than six months and true to his word he did. This past week we were officially opening the 200-seater Jasen Mphepo Little Theatre. The name might be very deceiving as most of the guests to the opening quickly found out.

Jasen Mphepo joined a very elite group of theatre practitioners who own their venues. 

In Bulawayo there is Cont Mhlanga and the Amakhosi Cultural Centre. 

In Harare there is Daves Guzha and his Theatre in the Park. Enter Jasen Mphepo and his little theatre. For many years artistes have been crying about lack or absence of venues that understand them and what they want to do. There little venues for theatre in the whole country.

City Council venues have become inaccessible to many artistes due to the costs of hiring. The state of many of the venues makes performances in them dangerous and uninspiring. No proper lighting system. Broken down stage. No security for audiences. This is what the Jasen Mphepo Little Theatre is coming to solve. It is a cosy theatre space designed to make theatre performances a pleasure to both the actors and audience alike.

The sector should applaud Jasen Mphepo for adding a much-needed infrastructure into the sector. Besides him immortalising himself with the structure and name he has made sure he will leave behind a rich legacy for his children and the next generation. 

He has set a huge example for his peers and many in the arts sector. Imagine all the big names in the sector owning their own spaces. That would mean total ownership of the means of production and artistes deciding the direction of the sector. Right now many artistes cannot practise their art simply because they can’t afford to rent or hire venues to either rehearse or perform. So once again we say congratulations are in order Mr Jasen Mphepo and the whole Patsime crew.

On other news the RoilBAA 2019 nominees were announced last week. As in previous editions the nomination reveal brought a serious buzz to the city. Those nominated went to town screaming about their nominations in all the platforms they are in and could access. Those that failed to make the grade have, as usual, one or two things to say. The shock reaction, however, was the one concerning the category that saw Jah Prayzah, Winky D and Oskido on it. Funny enough the reaction was not on Oskido but the other two, simply because they are Harare artistes. Those in the arts and that love art will not deny the impact both Winky D and Jah Prayzah have had on Bulawayo market. They have come and filled stadiums. They have come and inspired many artistes in the city. Jah Prayzah has even worked with the likes of Sandra Ndebele, Fatima Katiji, Vusa Blaqs, Paula Polama and many others. The category is a very interesting one as it looks at value and seeks to get RoilBAA accepted even outside Bulawayo. Let’s not forget that the BAAs have to think about their sustainability beyond tomorrow.

We conclude by wishing all nominees the best and hoping to see all of them at the nominees’ dinner in June.

Chat with Sis Noe…My wife is always not in the mood for sex

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Hi Sis Noe

I am scared that my boyfriend is going to dump me because I think I’m boring. I can’t help myself but I keep asking him if he loves me. I feel so insecure. — Worried.

Reply

You have got to calm down or you’ll be in danger of turning your fears into self-fulfilling prophecies. If you lack any confidence in yourself, how can you expect your beleaguered partner to respect and understand you? He’s told you that he loves you and isn’t planning to go anywhere so don’t insult him by constantly repeating the question. Challenge yourself this year with a project that will give you a sense of fulfillment but do speak to your GP if you’re struggling to cope.

Hi Sis Noe

I am a healthy woman aged 30 but I have never had an orgasm. What is wrong with me? — Worried.

Reply

There are many reasons why many women fail to have an orgasm but I have discovered that in most cases women fail to have an orgasm because they put too much pressure on themselves. 

If you are lying there nervous or tired or feeling uncomfortable about how much time has passed with you still not having had an orgasm, you are creating a vicious cycle of no orgasms. The pressure to have an orgasm can result in everyone being stressed out and not climaxing. Not ideal. Try not to think about it and just enjoy the sensations instead. You will come when you least expect it. 

It might also be the medication you are using. Medications can diminish sex hormones in the body, and often lead to having crappy orgasms or no orgasms at all. So if the sex is actually good and it’s just not happening for you that could be why. 

Talk to your doctor and see if there is another medication with fewer sexual side effects that you could be taking. It might be that your man doesn’t know what he is doing. 

Lasting 30 minutes to an hour does not make your man a good lover. For most women, orgasm does not come from penetration alone. 

Tell your man to stop his jackhammer method. He should stimulate you. Adequate foreplay leads to an orgasm. The problem could be you. Maybe you have no idea what works for you. You need to figure out what turns you on.

Hi Sis Noe

I am in love with a man who has a girlfriend. He had said he was unhappy and was going to leave her but now he has changed his mind. He said he loves me but he can’t leave her because she works and I don’t. I don’t know what to do. — Confused.

Reply

It’s your choice. Just look at the knots you are tying yourself up in trying to work out an acceptable narrative for his unacceptable behaviour. 

There are few qualities less attractive in men and this man of yours seems to be imbued with industrial quantities. Surely we can all agree that when you are being overlooked because you are not employed then it’s time to get real. 

This is not the stuff of great love stories, but of ill-conceived dalliances, self-deceit and our deep desire to be wanted, often at any cost. 

I have no idea if he is genuine but even if he is the trouble is that his behaviour doesn’t make him any less of a bad man. In fact it increases my sense that this is a guy with little moral fibre and no ability to steer his own destiny — two qualities not at all appealing in a prospective partner. I don’t really care why he is still with his girlfriend. Actions speak far louder than words – you are worthless to him. My advice is to tell him you will give him neither space nor time but intend to carry on with your own life, rising above his inability to make choices and setting your sights on someone who knows what they want and is prepared to make the sacrifices.

Hi Sis Noe

Since my wife gave birth having sex has become difficult. Every time I want to make love to her says she is tired, she is not in the mood. What should I do? —Worried

Reply

It’s very common for couples to find having a baby seems to spell the end of a passionate sex life, but help is available. Hormonal changes after childbirth may be responsible for short-lived baby blues, and can also play a part in causing longer-lasting depression, very often associated with loss of interest in sex. 

Another physical cause for loss of interest in sex can be exhaustion. 

Giving birth and looking after a small baby is extremely tiring. It’s very common for mothers to find they don’t sleep more than four hours without interruption for months on end. It can also feel overwhelming. 

You need to assist your wife in taking care of the baby and doing house chores. Learn to be understanding and let her heal and trust me, you will soon be enjoying full-blown sex again. 

Don’t put pressure on her because that will create a problem. It helps if you both realise that it’s only a short-lived difficulty, because if one or both of you takes it to be a serious lasting problem, that will makes you worry, and the worry in itself will make it a long-term problem. It’s a vicious circle.

The rising popularity of Maskandi artists in Bulawayo

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Rumbidzai Mhlanga, Sunday Life Reporter

WHILE impressionable youths may think Maskandi is backward, outdated and too traditional, there are some artistes who do not want to let go of their culture, norms and traditional vernacular music.

While other young artistes might rush to new genres, maskandi seems to resonate with many people in Bulawayo and Matabeleland and some might argue that it has undergone a rebirth in the City of Kings. 

It is the remarkable works of artistes like Zinjaziyamluma, Madlela Sikhobokhobo and other renowned Maskandi artistes who keep the genre alive and relevant.

Winning awards last year from Skyz Metro FM and Ingwebu People’s Choice awards was aprivilege for both artistes and it was a sign to them that their music is recognised, loved and appreciated by the public.

Talking to Sunday News Madlela Skhobokhobo says Maskandi music helps people identify themselves with their true selves as the music carries a message that reprimands and advices especially people.

“We were a bit behind as far as our culture and tradition is concerned hence Maskandi music is more of an eye opener as to what is expected of us as a community and as individuals showing us the way as at times we get lost,” Madlela said.

“It is more or less the same with other Shona songs from artistes like Jah Prayzah some of his songs communicate with the souls, same applies with Maskandi songs they are some that are spiritual and also build people,” he continued.

Zinjaziyaluma sharing the same opinions with Madlela also stated that Maskandi music is an attempt to familiarise people with their true identity.

 “The song from my third album titled SingamaNdebele was mainly for us to know who we are and be proud of it. It’s not that I am a tribalist but it is important to know who we are and what we stand for hence we should follow the footsteps of our grandfathers,” Zinjaziyaluma said.

“Our genre is really making waves but most of us are in South Africa representing and raising high our Zimbabwean flag, we have groomed and are still grooming a lot of people for Maskandi to be sung all over the world,” he added.

With the growth of Maskandi and attention it is getting, Gracious Ncube who is based in South Africa got motivated and decided to follow theroute taken by these artistes and in 2018 came up with his first album titled Bayakhuluma with the help of Thobel’omuhle who assisted him with the compositionof songs, and is also the up and coming artiste’s producer.

“I loved Maskandi from way back but by then I did not have the money to produce my own album following the footsteps of the already recognized artistes,” said Gracious Ncube.

“Even though I am not home but I wish that become well known and praised at home more than in the foreign county hence I did send my CDs to our local radio stations Khulumani Fm being one of them,” he continued. @ruekushie

Lovers indoors, strangers in public

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Nhlalwenhle Ncube 

WHEN you are madly in love, you feel like telling the whole world that you have finally found that person who completes you. But then you realise that the other party when you are in public acts as if you are strangers.

You wonder what’s happening because when you are alone together, he is a different person. Your sweet and loving better-half acts distant and cold in front of friends and public in general. The minute you have people around you, he stops being affectionate and turns to be impersonal. 

It really hurts to have a partner who is only sweet to you in private and when you are in public becomes a stranger. 

Not that you will be expecting a lot of attention in public, but just that closeness and sharing jokes together. If someone is watching from a distance, they can even conclude that you were lying about you guys being in a relationship and you are the one pushing hard for things to happen. 

It is always disturbing not to be given attention you expect just because you are in public. You will obviously begin to think that he or she is cheating on you and that person is around therefore, he has to keep a low note. The same incident then happens at different places making you realise there is more to it than you imagined. 

You  begin to wonder, is it because you embarrass your partner in public. Even when you ask him what’s wrong, he will say all is fine though it will be clear it’s not. 

It is so sad to have a partner who is only loving and caring when you are indoors, but the minute you walk out of the house you become distant. It’s heartbreaking because if you are a woman you can’t afford to ignore that he only wants you for sex and nothing more. Why become nice indoors and act as if we do not know each other when in public.

Even some women do the same to their partners when in public. They forget that the person they are pushing far is the one who paid for their hairstyle and nails. In public they want to appear as if they are still available on the market, ignoring their own partners. When men realise that, they are quick to jump to conclusions, that it is either you are after their money or you are embarrassed by his ugliness. 

Ignoring your partner in public is a bad behaviour and no reasons can justify or save your face for that. Someone was once asked why he ignores his partner in public and he said he doesn’t like her makeup and dressing. He forgot that even if he ignored her, people already knew she was his girlfriend and keeping the distance was useless. The best option was for him to be open and tell his partner to put on a different dress than choose to stay away from her. Even if you keep that distance, people laugh at you as well, blaming you for not being honest to your partner. 

You find them laughing saying, “So he told her that darling you look hot in that.” It is always advisable to correct each other’s faults while indoors because you are a team and people will not laugh at your partner only but both of you. 

If you are feeling frustrated about the fact that your spouse is a different person in public than at home with you, the often painful task is looking at yourself first. What kind of a spouse are you at home? Do you make your spouse want to be home with you? Do you treat your spouse as respectfully as his/her co-workers or friends do? Are you YOUR very best self at home? Is there something you are doing that is causing your spouse to distance themselves from you, dislike you, or treat you differently than they treat others? 

Truth be told, no one wants to be disrespected and treated like a baby in public. So the reason some people get to be treated like strangers is because of the disrespect they display in public. I have seen some people who make their partners appear stupid and as if they never do anything right. That is very bad and when your partner realises that you treat him in such a manner, he will definitely stay away from you in public.

Good manners are crucial all the time. All you can do is be your best self and bring your best into the relationship. When you notice that it’s your partners’ habit to be cold in public, talk about the issue and tell him that it hurts you so much. It is better for him to be honest about why he behaves in such a manner than torture you. When in love, you want to be loved every day and everywhere despite who is around. Then if its a private relationship, it is better if you get to know and be on the same level after choosing to agree or not. 

It is better to be single at once than to be with a partner who always acts as if he doesn’t know you in public. When you think of how sweet he will be when in private, you just break down as it hurts so much. 

Let’s get talking on womenforum460@gmail.com

Msiz’Kay says now on right course

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Rumbidzai Mhlanga, Sunday Life Reporter

STRENGTH and growth come only through continuous effort and sometimes struggle. This is the testimony given by Sizalobuhle Nkomo, popularly known as Msiz’kay, who through determination and grit is now one of Bulawayo’s finest music prospects.

Unlike other artistes Msiz’kay paved his own way to the music industry, determined and persistent, he made a name for himself and is now deemed one of the best as far as hip-hop is concerned.

Speaking to Sunday Life the artiste related how he loved music from a tender age and how the dream became a reality.

“I always loved music growing up, I always sang along while listening to music on the radio then at secondary level I started writing poems which later on turned into songs,” said Msiz’kay.

“When I met Vyrass back in 2009 who produced my first song I recorded titled Recognition and I’ve never looked back since then,” he continued.

The innovative 30-year-old artiste, whose music is not for its boundary breaking ideas, could not choose a particular genre as he had ideas for many genres hence decided to take bits and pieces from various genres.

“My music genre is called Woo Haa Music, it is a fusion of hip-hop, R ’n B and various traditional African music elements to come up with a unique sound that is 100 percent Msiz’kay,” he said.

Inspired and motivated by family and his mentor who was also his friend the late Joe Maseko the versatile artiste has been focusing on his career while also aiming for greater heights.

“My greatest inspiration was always my mentor and friend the late great Joe Maseko and my family has always been my pillar of strength helping me deal with the day-to-day challenges of being an artiste,” he said.

“Joe Maseko mentored me and taught me music production and helped me grow into a fully-fledged artiste-producer, above all its been God at work and Sabela Music Projects who distribute my music,” added Msiz’kay.

Being nominated twice in the same year for 2017 Bulawayo Arts Awards Song of the Year as well as a 2017 Skyz Metro Fm Best Hip-Hop Song nominee and 2018 Bulawayo Arts Awards nominee for Outstanding Hip-Hop Artiste/Act showed the young artiste that he is on the right track and motivated him to press on and do even better.

“Being nominated thrice opened my eyes and made me realise that I can achieve my goals of being the best at what I do,” Msiz’kay said.

Being nominated for Outstanding Hip-Hop Artiste/Act for this year’s Roil Bulawayo Arts Awards 2019 is another feather in Msiz’kay’s cap.

“I’m super excited and happy that myself and my work are being counted among artistes doing good music in the city,” stated the artiste.

“I have aspirations to become one of the greatest musicians of all time and reach billions of people all over the world with my music. Inspire and entertain,” he continued.

Despite his many triumphs, the young artiste shared with Sunday Life the challenges of being an artiste.

“Our biggest challenge is that the local market is generally more receptive to music from outside Bulawayo and Zimbabwe hence it has been an uphill climb fighting to change the hearts and minds of people and get them to listen to a local artistes,” mentioned Msiz’kay.

The artiste also narrated how he comes up with the title of his albums and where he gets ideas to compose meaningful lyrics with relevant messages.

“I write concept-based music, almost all of my music is influenced by personal experiences, things that I have seen and heard as I go through life,” said Msiz’kay.

“Both my albums Bazovuma and Bayashiselwa the second one which came out this April stood out for me as great album titles, because they are powerful words that catch people’s attention,” he added.

“I produce almost all my music with the help of other talented musicians who come through to aid me from time to time with specific live elements.” 

@ruekushie

Henry Thodlana: A Makokoba legend’s silent farewell

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Bruce Ndlovu, Sunday Life Reporter

WHEN Henry Thodlana passed away a month ago, the news barely seemed to make a dent on the Bulawayo arts scene.

To some, the name Thodlana would have sent a few bells ringing, as it might have reminded them of Lucky Thodlana, his elder brother, who is still earning a living as a member of the legendary Cool Crooners.

For those in the know, however, it would have been surprising why the 81-year-old Thodlana’s death did not cause more of a ripple.

After all, arts veterans and insiders would say, this was a man that had a hand in the rise of some of the city’s most prominent arts practitioners, some of who would go on to become legends in various fields. From Cont Mhlanga and Albert Nyathi, to Black Umfolosi, Thodlana helped shape the artiste who in turn helped shape Bulawayo’s arts landscape.

“He grew up in Makokoba. First he went to school in Luveve then to Mzilikazi when we moved to Makokoba,” said his younger brother Joko Thodlana of the man who was laid to rest on 26 April.

“After that he went to Solusi, which was a boarding school. He then did teaching at Pumula and later moved to Lobengula Primary School in Mzilikazi. He then he became a headmaster at a school near Umguza. After independence that’s when he became the education and culture officer for Matabeleland North which included Bulawayo at that time,” he said.

According to Joko, Thodlana had been one of the city’s jazz pioneers.

“Before that he had formed his own band called the Jazz Merchants. He was a keyboard player. They played in places like the Southern Sun (Rainbow Hotel) and the Midlands Hotel. Besides the music he taught many people in the arts. The likes of Cont Mhlanga all passed through his hands and in music he played with the likes of Dorothy Masuka. He also played with Hugh Masekela although at that he was in Botswana,” he said.

Thodlana’s history in Bulawayo 60s jazz scene is remembered fondly by Benson Ndlovu, a jazz legend and leader of Men at Work Afro, an Afro Jazz band.

 “I got my first pay because of him. We used to learn our music from the boys clubs. These were clubs that closed at 5pm and so we didn’t get a lot of time to play because you would only get a chance to play when the senior boys got tired which would be maybe 10 minutes before closing.

“I remember their group the Jazz Merchants’ leader guitarist Maseko who would teach me how to play the guitar. During their smoking breaks he would call me to the side and he would teach me how to play. One day they had a disagreement with their bassist and he didn’t show up when they were supposed to be playing at a wedding. So Thodlana asked me to come and play with them,” he said.

Ndlovu’s first gig as a jazz musician was one he would not forget in a hurry, as it also give him his first taste of money as a professional artiste.

 “The problem was that I didn’t know the keys so I sat next to Thodlana when it was time for us to play. So he would give me signals through his keyboard and then I would look for the key by ear. We went on like that up until the end of the wedding. After that he called me by the side and he gave me my share. I took the money and give most of it to my mother. That was my first pay as a musician,” he said.

Being a jazz artiste, a teacher and an administrator was a rare feat, but despite that the musician had to walk away, retiring from his job and starting another in South Africa.

“It was after this that he retired and went to South Africa. This was in the 90s. He played in places like the Summit Hotel in South Africa and he was employed as a music teacher in South Africa and I remember there was once a schools competition in that country in which they were they singing for Mandela and his school managed to come second,” he said.

He would return to the City of Kings after illness took hold of him. Even in his later years, plagued with ill health, he had not forsaken the spirit of learning.

“He studied Film Production in Cape Town,” said his son Ndabezinhle Thodlana. 

He was based in Cape Town. He died because of complications from a stroke and then when he was here that’s when he had another stroke and passed away.

“He was a philanthropist. He was very religious and as a strict Seventh Adventist he raised us to be like him. He would go on fast and on Saturday they would be no TV or food on that day,” he said.

Joko said, despite the fact that he seemed to have passed away unnoticed, Thodlana was a legend in Makokoba.

“He was a Makokoba legend. He was Makokoba through and through and I’m sure some people might be shocked to find out that he has passed away,” he said.

How to get that flawless skin

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 Rutendo Chidawanyika 

ARE you looking for a way to get beautiful, glowing skin like the celebrities on the red carpet? The solution may be easier than you think. While most of us don’t have access to professional aestheticians 24/7 like our favourite celeb, there are a few simple, daily habits and lifestyle changes you can make to get that flawless skin. Moisturise every day, throughout the day. Use SPF 15 sunscreen on a daily basis. Reduce stress and make better dietary choices to avoid breakouts.

DRINK WATER! Loads of water. 2-3 litres a day should be enough. Some are lucky to have good skin, and some of us rely on H2O on a daily basis.

Wash your face at least twice a day. Remove oils and debris from your face every morning and night to get clear, glowing skin. If you work outside or are sweating more than usual, you may want to wash your face more frequently. Use mild, unscented, and dye-free soap and water. Invest in good skincare products which work well with your skin.

Check the ingredients. In most cases, a mild soap is enough to keep your skin free from blemishes and give it a healthy glow. Make sure products don’t contain peroxide and alcohol. These ingredients strip protective oils from the skin, leading to dry, uneven complexion. 

Get a facial. Professional facials remove dead skin, unclog pores, and rejuvenate the appearance of skin tone for a healthy glow. If you’re unable to afford the cost of regular facials with a professional aesthetician, you can also do your own facials at home. Check your local beauty store or pharmacy for products that include alpha hydroxy acids and enzymes. These are the ingredients that make professional facials effective.

Wear sunscreen every day. Even if you don’t get sunburns, sunscreen is essential to protect your skin from UV rays, pollutants, and harsh weather conditions. Choose sunscreens that are oil free and at least SPF 15 or higher. Sunscreen typically wears off after three hours, so bring sunscreen with you and reapply often for best results. You may also want to consider a moisturiser and sunscreen combined to simplify your care routine.

Use different products for day and night. Your skin has different needs according to the time of day. In the morning, you want to prepare your skin for the rest of the day. Start by using a gentle cleanser to soothe your skin. Next, apply toner if that is part of your routine. Most importantly, you want to choose a daytime moisturiser. Ideally, a daytime moisturiser should contain SPF. It should also be light, and should not make your skin feel oily.

At night, you want to use a thicker, richer moisturiser. Retinols and peptides are good ingredients to look for, as they can help repair your skin overnight. Coconut oil is my go-to moisturiser at night.

Brighten skin with beer. You can create a simple foaming cleanser using beer that will smooth your complexion leaving you with a healthy glow. Combine ½ a cup of beer, 1 egg white, and 2 teaspoons of lime juice. The B vitamins and yeast in beer mixed with the egg white foams creating a hydrating cleanser that removes dead skin. (just give it a try).

AFTER ALL THIS . . .

Your skin will be in a better condition. You change the oil in your car every few months in order to properly maintain it. You know that routine maintenance is a priority to extend the life of your car. You need to respect your skin the same way.

For many of us, we skip steps in our routine because we think it’ll take too long. We are all stretched for time. Faithfully keeping a skin care routine will help to reduce the appearance of dullness and lines, as well as help with oiliness and improve the clarity of you skin.

Your skin will work harder for you. It might sound silly, but it’s true. When you take care of your skin, your skin will take care of you. Did you know that your skin is actually working hard, while you sleep, to regenerate? Cell turnover is faster at night and this allows your products to do their job more efficiently. If you are careful and make a point to cleanse your skin and remove your makeup every night, your skin will be better able to repair itself, while allowing moisturiser to absorb more deeply.

Your youthful glow will start to come back. Dullness. At some point, most of us will notice a decrease in skin radiance. It doesn’t have to be that way, though. Cell turnover slows down as we age, making skin look duller. After cleansing, apply a gentle toner to remove any last traces of cleanser, help restore skin pH, and prep the skin for your moisturiser or treatments. 

With consistency comes visible results. How many of you have purchased the latest skin care item promising results only to use it a couple of times before declaring it ineffective? People get so caught up in the notion of miracle ingredients or finding the fountain of youth that they expect instant results. Dramatic results will not happen overnight. It can often take weeks of consistent use for noticeable results to happen. The key to seeing those changes is to stick to your skin care routine.

Those results you’re beginning to see? They will be easier to maintain.

I like to think of a skin care routine like an exercise routine. When you first start your exercise routine, you might not see results those first few days. Once your routine is established, you take notice. You’ll begin to think, “Wow. Look at the definition in my waist.” When you stick with that exercise plan, you’ll continue to notice changes in your body and if you keep at it, you will be able to maintain those changes. The same is true with a consistent skin care routine. Your skin will continue to look healthy and refreshed as long as you don’t give up on the routine.

Get that flawless skin. — Additional information from Online sources.

Email: rutendochidawanyika3@gmail.com


‘He would tell me I’m going to make you suffer’

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Bruce Ndlovu, Sunday Life Reporter

REACHING a milestone gives some cause to pause and reflect and it was the same for radio and TV personality MisRed last week who used her 30th birthday as an opportunity to talk of about her ruinous early marriage that left her broken, losing 20kg in weight as her husband tormented her.

While MisRed’s star has risen steadily over the last few years, 2019 seems to be the year in which she has settled all debates about her stardom. Her voice on radio seems stronger than ever, and her radiant looks and character have made sure that she continues to be a social media darling for many followers.

It was only a few months ago that pictures of a curvaceous MisRed on a motorbike sent tongues wagging across Zimbabwean social media. Jah Prayzah’s video for Kunerima, in which she was the main attraction, hit a million views on YouTube in a month.

Zimbabwe, it seems, is in love with a woman who has embraced her curves with pride. The country simply cannot get enough of the sassy, bubbly woman who now sounds equally at home behind a microphone or in front of a camera.

But before she was MisRed, she was just Samantha Musa, a 21-year-old girl who fell in love with a man who she claims could sometimes be ruthless. 

“So I had my first child before I was MisRed. I was 21 and it was a mess. It was just a mess. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. I mean, when you’re younger you really think that you love someone then when you’re older you realise that this really wasn’t it,” she said in an interview on her birthday. 

“Emotional abuse was him belittling me as a woman. He was making me feel like I was nothing. And he would do it intentionally. Some people feel do it without knowing but he would plan it out. He would say what can I do, to reduce who she is . . . it sounds crazy to people who know the story because he doesn’t seem like that.”

According to MisRed, the man whose name she could not even mention was not only tormenting her, but seemed to take pleasure in it.

“But he would tell me, ‘I’m going to make you suffer,’ and he would go away and he would plan it and I’d still accept it because I was in love. Because I had gotten pregnant when I least expected it, I think my life kind of stopped at that point . . . when I got married he took me away from my family and it wasn’t an option, because I had to go back as I was still living in Mozambique back then. He said I don’t want you to go back and so he went to my house and my parents were there, he was like ‘I’m going to ask your parents for you to marry me so that you don’t go back,’” she said.

MisRed said she had eventually found herself in a marriage of convenience.

“I was so shy and I didn’t want to disappoint my parents . . . I had gotten with this guy and he had somewhat of a control freak thing that he had within him, he said, ‘you can’t go back, I’m going to figure out a plan.’

“Here he was going to my parents’ house and saying, ‘I want to marry her’ and my mum was like ‘what do you mean you want to marry her? She hasn’t even told us about you’ . . . I was so embarrassed that I ended up agreeing to that marriage because of embarrassment, not because I loved him or I wanted to be in that relationship but because I didn’t want to disappoint my parents,” she said.

At 21 in a controlling and abusive marriage, she watched her dreams evaporate.

“At this point I didn’t know what to do when I ended up with a guy, staying with a man at 21 years old. I should have been travelling, enjoying myself, living life. But I was stuck in this situation. Then I got pregnant.

“When I realised I had given away myself and my dreams and my hopes and I was stuck in this house. Day in day out I’d wake up, clean the house, cook, sleep, wake up, clean the house, cook, sleep. That’s not who I wanted to be. I wanted more and I couldn’t even discuss being more because that would make me a bad person in his eyes and all I thought about was pleasing him,” she said.

Her Damascus moment would come after a visit from her mother, who broke down when she saw her daughter’s dramatic weight loss.

“And then one day my mum . . . bless her heart, because she’s always worried about me, she was like ‘I need to see you. I haven’t spoken to you since you’ve been at this house.’ My mum came and I had lost 20kg and she was like ‘mwana wangu urikuitei.’ And I’d hurt her pretty bad. I had disappointed her. It wasn’t meant to happen like that but it did and my mum was like, ‘this is not you.’ I’m naturally a big person and at the time I was weighing 52kg,” she said.

Sex, drugs and social disorder . . . the birth of Bulawayo’s Vuzu parties

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Bruce Ndlovu, Sunday Life Reporter

VUZU parties were born in a kombi.

Like a child with many fathers, no one is sure about when exactly they were born. Those who attended those first parties, however, are clear about where Vuzu parties, a social phenomenon that has turned Bulawayo upside down, were conceived.

When Vuzu parties started around 2011, attended mostly by students from private schools in the city, those young party animals had no idea that they started a movement that would sweep through the city and leave parents and authorities gnashing teeth and scratching their heads. In a kombi owned by a man now recalled only as Max, Vuzu parties were born.

Below the radar of the police and parents, most of who were probably happy that their children were not at seedy bars and nightspots, the parties that at their inception were called Vuzooms were born.

Saturday afternoons in Bulawayo would never be the same again.

“The first Vuzu parties started at Hillside Dams,” said Leroy Mufudzi, one of the attendees of those early parties. “They were held there and most people would just come to party close to the gate at Dams. The masterminds of the whole Vuzu thing, or I can call them the founders, were this guy called Max and others. He was a dreadlocked guy and he had a kombi with a booming sound system. He used to take girls from Girls College using that kombi.”

Mufudzi told Sunday Life that in those early days, the parties were just the preserve of students from the city’s private schools.

“We would go there and the guy’s car would be the life of the party. It would be the only sound system and people would gather around it. There you would find students from CBC, Girls College, Convent, Eveline, Townsend, Milton and Plumtree. The boys who had the most shine were from CBC and Plumtree. It was a thing for private school kids so you didn’t have a lot of people from the western areas. But as time went on, one person that goes to CBC that was from the western areas would bring another from the western areas and that one would bring another and on and on it went,” he said.

The Vuzu parties would soon attract a crew of party organisers, VO2, who would transform them their humble beginnings to a citywide phenomenon.

“As time went on, boys from VO2 took the idea and they moved the parties from Hillside Dams to Hillside houses. When VO2 took over that’s when the Vuzooms became Vuzus. The Trade Fair weekend was always the peak weekend and that’s when there were the best parties. There was a double storey house in Famona and that’s where the parties were hosted. It would be held outdoors. The top guys, the coolest guys, were the only ones allowed inside the house,” Mufudzi said.

Mufudzi would go on to become a founder of the All Star Party, a gig that started as an annual Vuzu party but blossomed into one of the major events on the city’s arts calendar, attracting top talent like XQ to its stages. But before All Star party could take off, VO2 would change the way teenagers and young adults partied in the City of Kings.

“The masterminds of those parties were Tapiwa Olonga and his boy Brian Stifler. He was named that after the American Pie character of the same name because he could organise great parties,” said Thandolwenkosi Khanye, another early attendee of the first Vuzus. 

“I think it started as a series of small parties around 2012. They would organise girls and link up for the parties. They then realised that a lot more people wanted to come then they would hire one kombi and everyone would meet at Haddon and Sly. Olonga seem to have everyone’s phone number so that helped a lot. So on Friday you knew everyone knew they were waiting for a text from him telling them where it would be going down.”

Soon, however, the Vuzu parties started attracting the attention of even those that did not attend them. Curious neighbours were suddenly alarmed at the frequency of these parties and the police also started sniffing around. More than a few sex tapes were recorded at these parties and girls, some under-age, would allege to have been raped after some of the parties. 

Fists also flew and blows were exchanged as boys with grudges used those parties as ideal places to settle new or long standing feuds. It would be only a matter of time before the parties started making front page news.

“So it was more like a wave because the police had got wind of the parties and would come and shut them down. So it was more like a secret that you waited for and kept even though the police always eventually came. That added to the sense of adventure. All these parties were happening in houses in the eastern suburbs because if you went to the lodges they wouldn’t agree.

They would say young kids like us always mess up and a lot of fights happen that ruin their places. So they started going to houses and they would say we give the owner $300 for a party from 2pm to 6pm but the parties wouldn’t even make it to 6 because the police would be there. Despite that we did it every week.” 

While having an outdoor party was looked at as fun and innovative at first, in the end it would turn out to be Vuzu’s Achilles Heel, opening the eyes of the public to what was happening.

“What drew attention to the parties was the fact that they happened outdoors. Everyone would gather outside the houses because that was the only way to gauge if a party was successful or not. That drew attention of angry neighbours and when so many people started getting interested in the parties the organisers started making people pay. They would sell tickets and people snapped them up,” he said.

For Olonga, the founder of VO2 who is often hailed as a mastermind of those early get-togethers, Vuzu parties started as a noble cause that has since become corrupted.

“For us as VO2, the movement we started was for a good cause. They were called Vuzooms, which basically means party, before they eventually got called Vuzus. When we started them we wanted to take people away from bars and clubs. That was our whole intention and if you look at the people who attended those first parties, most of them have grown up to be exemplary people.

“Back then the parties never went beyond 6pm. By that time everyone would be home after having enjoyed at the party. It’s different with these kids now because these ones go beyond those curfews and you find them at clubs at night,” he said.

Last week, when 131 youths were arrested, many were shocked at what was uncovered. Alcohol, condoms, drugs and vuka vuka drugs were part of the haul when police finished work on the last weekend before schools open, traditionally a peak day for Vuzu parties.

For Olonga, the increasing popularity of opioids and other drugs has led to the current situation.

“Now they don’t just drink alcohol, they’re also taking all kinds of drugs which wasn’t the case when we were having our parties back then.

“As much as the police might arrest people, that won’t really solve much because young people will always look for a place where they can come together and have fun away from adults. One thing that can be done is the revival of youth centres but the big problem now is that club owners now know they can make easy money from youngsters by not strictly enforcing age restrictions,” he said.

What makes art ‘art’

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Tafadzwa Gwetai

THE artist is challenged with the highly vital role of creating a poem, painting or sculpture that must bear the similar or opposed views of a community. The major challenge an artist has is to find an intelligent way of arousing some form of emotion from the viewer or listener. The viewer or listener must be perturbed by that which is seen before them or that which is spoken or sung to them. A sense of unsettledness toward that which has been created is a crucial initial stage for the art form to be justified as an ‘‘art piece’’.

It is a shame that many artists get away with creating work that may appear and sound aesthetically interesting but does not have any justifiable ‘‘meaning as to why it was created’’. Meaning and purpose is very crucial to the survival of what we term as ‘‘true art’’ forms. ‘‘True art’’ forms stand the test of time and the test of criticism. When an art form stands the test of time this suggests that the relevance of the art form has been significant to the immediate community and the international world. Relevance of a piece refers to what it contributes to societal values and how it may challenge the very same societal values.  

The artist is challenged with the identifying of the root cause of what keeps them perturbed and anxious and identify what voice speaks through them. First stage would involve the artist “expressing this emotion” through the form of dance, vocalising it, painting or sculpting. As human beings we all have our forms of release that are of a psychological, emotional and reactive nature. As artists the idea is to express and communicate as opposed to bottling in ideas and thoughts. The idea is to strike a dialogue on diverse topical areas of society and its challenges. Expression is the outward revelation of ones thoughts and ideas.

Arousal of emotion is the next stage that gives the art form purpose and true meaning. The artist has the mission of deciding what emotion they intend to arouse in either there viewer or the listener of the art form. Arousal of emotion may vary according to ones past encounters, religious or spiritual beliefs and any other relatable past encounters. The strength in the art form also lies in the power and ability to arouse emotions and initiate dialogue. The meaning of the creation gives artwork roots from which it can be grounded and thus the reactions and responses from people can be open to interpretation. This applies to paintings, sculpture, spoken word, poetry and theatre. The magnitude of the levels of expression can only be measured by either stats such as the level of dialogue created around the creation, accurate depiction of social relevance or the creations contribution to intellectual growth. 

Expressive art is characterised by vibrance of colour or intense lyrical content. Artists such as the late Luis Meque and our very own Bulawayo-based Rashid Jogee are pioneers of the painterly expressive movement. Luis Meque (1966-1998) who was a Mozambican based in Zimbabwe grew his painting skills at Gallery Delta. Meque was one of the most profound artists in Zimbabwe who influenced the development of paintings. Meque can be described as driving to arouse or produce individual emotions of a certain kind. He critically comments on society with the aim of arousing and expressing emotion. Art critics described Meques creations and state of mind saying.“He examines the qualities of a type of darkness — psychological, metaphorical, environmental and in Zimbabwe’s case racial”.

When it comes to inspiring abstract expressionism from within our Zimbabwean borders we have Rashid Jogee who is a living legend residing in Bulawayo. His creations possess a depth that is filled with emotions. His paint is applied with a violent strength of emotion and he layers his creations with different emotion. His creations have always dealt with spirituality and its balance in relation to ones identity as an Indian man living in Zimbabwe.

There are two forms of emotion that art works are associated with. Art cannot exist independently of the two emotions which are “expression” of emotion and the “arousal” of emotion. Expression of emotion involves the artist dealing with their feelings that are gathered through the process known as being “perturbed”. The artist strives to actualise his feelings into something physical and he can justify that which was being felt and clearly label their emotion as either being that of anger, hate, or protest. Arousal of emotion involves the artist having the ability or motive to bring out of the viewers different responses of a diverse nature.

Africa Day Drags

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Lovert Mafukure

THE difference between men and boys isn’t in the way they dress, nor is it in the way they talk nor how many girls they can charm but it has much to do with how they lay the rubber down on the tarmac and how fast they can make it across the quarter mile line!

This month, on the 25th of May straight fours, straight sixes, V6s and V8s will battle it out across that line with one goal in mind . . . To differentiate between men and boys! It’s the Africa Day Drags 2019.

We have known gurus coming down to race on the 25th. Terry Allberry still holds the record as fastest Bulawayo dragster but unfortunately he won’t be participating this time. Boon white is going to show up and shine in his Godzilla R32 GTR skyline, Phillip Minnar in his Gusheshe E30 that’s sure to turn some heads, he will have the R34 skyline saloon as well. Gadzirayi also representing the Mitsubishi fans in his naturally aspirated Mitsubishi lancer. The ladies are not to be outdone of course with lady racers like Falan Sinclair coming to represent with her R34 Skyline Saloon. 

John Peterson is definitely going to pull up some serious competition with his Chevy Lumina 6.0l V8 Ute, with his slicks he’s going to be a hard competitor for most. Byron Norman will be behind the wheel in his boosted Mitsubishi Evo 4, Ndex in the famous blue turbo Golf 1. Last but not least Zane Shar will be competing as well in his red colour world Toyota Conquest. 

Gates open at 10am and it’s only 6Rtgs and as usual kids under 12 are free to see some action. Full bar and catering on site with a DJ rolling out your favourite tunes all day. It’s not going to be racing as usual as racers are going to be starting from the previous finish line going up the track. The idea behind the change is to have all members in comfortable space within the Pits area and have better view of the action. 

For those that may not know, drag racing is a type of motorsport that involves two cars or bikes competing to be the first to cross the finish line over a short set distance. It’s more like how petrol-heads meet by the traffic lights and rev up their engines to signal the intention to size each other up to the next light, whoever gets there first wins. On public roads it’s dangerous because it exposes pedestrians and other motorists to some unnecessary dangers.

This event is completely free and competitors only need to pay for medical insurance, which is only Rtgs $15,00. Should the club manage to get sponsorship for the insurance then the event will be completely free. There are a few rules that all competitors will need to adhere to because above all, safety is the club’s biggest concern.

Drivers of closed cars are required to wear helmets, closed shoes, and safety belts if the vehicle is equipped with some. Those with no access to helmets can come and borrow from the club. Drivers of open cars on the other hand are required to wear helmets, long sleeves, long trousers, gloves, closed shoes and safety belts if the vehicle is equipped with some.

All competitors will maintain safety standards so that the club can also maintain its safety records. Riders of motorcycles must wear helmets, gloves, full-length trousers, long-sleeved jackets and closed shoes minimum boots preferred. Leather is preferred for riders because it offers better protection. 

Apart from ability and passion, all drivers must be at least 16 years of age and in possession of a valid driver’s license. Riders under 16 years of age must be in possession of a valid Motorsport Zimbabwe (MSZ) competition licence. Any other rider must be in possession of a valid driver’s licence. There shall not be any drinking of alcohol allowed for racers until all racing is done so come sober or no racing at all. 

The whole idea of having such a public drag event is to promote motor racing in a safe and controlled environment.

We do have a lot of illegal street racing and we are saying simply, race in the tracks and not on the streets. 

We have seen enough road carnage and loss of life. 

We have the types that race across city streets revving up their engines at every traffic light, we have the elements that itch every time they see their rivals on calm and quiet city streets, the message to them is simple . . . 

Are you a boy or a man? Come out and play, lay your rubber down, play hard across the quarter mile in a safe and controlled environment. Come and race in the track and not on the streets. Save the date, May 25 from 10am, see you there!

Zodwa to pay lobola for her man . . . After splashing R55 000 on wedding rings

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She is spotted at South Africa’s biggest events in the skimpiest of outfits. She performs on stage without underwear — that’s her signature and her form of activism for women’s liberation. And Zodwa Wabantu (33), is unapologetic about it.

Her romance with Ntobeko Linda, who is 10 years her junior, raised eyebrows. But the social butterfly paid no heed to any criticism. 

Recently, she raised eyebrows once again when she got down on one knee at Eyadini (a popular night club in KwaZulu-Natal) and proposed to Linda. The nightclub is the place where she was discovered by Afrotainment. Her sentimental attachment to this place has now deepened with her proposal.

Wabantu’s wedding ring, which she bought herself, cost about R50 000. Her fiancé’s ring was around R5 000. 

In making public her proposal and her willingness to pay lobola for her husband, she’s kicked a hornet’s nest, so to speak, as it goes against the cultural practice of the Zulu nation.

Traditionally, lobola (the “bride price”), is a gesture made with cattle (and/or money) from the groom to the bride’s family. 

Typically, this involves the groom’s paternal uncles approaching the bride’s paternal uncles in a ceremonial process of negotiation. 

Some say lobola must be abolished as it has lost everything it is meant to stand for. There is a feeling that this tradition has become about the objectification of women and not about relationships between families, as was the original intention.

Professor Sihawu Ngubane, the deputy dean of undergraduate studies in the faculty of humanities, development and social sciences on the Howard College Campus of the University of KwaZulu-Natal and an expert in the Zulu language, literature and culture, said: “My view on this matter is simple — ilobola has been challenged from many corners of society because of its cost. In the past, the environment was different in the sense that the focus was on bringing two families together, utilising whatever they could afford. Now lobola is about how much you have.”

This has led to some couples choosing to live together, either because they can’t afford lobola or because they don’t believe in the practice. 

Others have dug their heels in saying they cannot abandon this custom because if they do, they lose everything that is African about themselves. They are opposed to the view that what is African is barbaric and that which is Western is civilised. 

And so there are two camps, one fighting against what they view as the increasing Western strangulation of African customs and the other saying that we should do away with this practice completely. 

Meanwhile, all eyes are on Wabantu and what is viewed as an act of defiance. Will the Linda family accept Wabantu in the role of umakoti? South Africa waits with bated breath to see if Wabantu’s lobola will be accepted and what it will mean for other women.– www.iol.co.za

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